TOOL #7: Heaven’s Help
To be the best earthly father you can be, you need help from the Ultimate Father.
“I came that they might have life, and have it abundantly.” John 10:10, NASB
“I grew up in a totally broken family. My dad was an alcoholic and an adulterer. But by God’s grace—and with His help—my wife and I have four wonderful kids, aged 10 to 22. And nothing could be better than that.” Daniel S., New York, New York
After reading the title of this chapter, you might be saying to yourself, Yes, of course I need God’s help. Or perhaps you are asking yourself, What the heck does he mean by “Heaven’s Help”? No matter what your reaction to this chapter’s title, I hope that you will hang with me here. Hear me out at least by reading the whole chapter. Then, if you want to dismiss these ideas, at least you will have heard me out.
The title of this section means something very simple: Are you willing to ask God Almighty to help you be a better dad? You and I might have a different understanding of God and how to do that, and that’s okay. I’m not claiming some kind of divine mandate on my understanding of God—and I’ll bet you’re not either—but one thing I’m sure we both agree on is that we could use some heavenly help on this fatherhood thing. Here’s the good news: The Bible portrays God in many ways. But one of the many amazing things about the New Testament is how Jesus teaches us (many times) that God is our heavenly Father. Unless you’re a scholar of comparative religions, you might not immediately grasp how revolutionary this was . . . and is.
Two thousand years ago, most human beings worshiped a wide variety of local and regional idols. Think of the old Greek and Roman gods like Zeus or Neptune, which still have a (small) place in modern memory. These gods were capricious, unreliable and competitive with each other. Many had to be appeased with human sacrifices. And none, absolutely none, was portrayed as being our “heavenly Father.”
01 – The Importance of Fatherhood
02 – The Power of a “Noble Family Vision”
03 – Overview of the Ten Tools of Fatherhood
04 – TOOL #1: Family First/Fun
05 – TOOL #2: All-in Marriage
06 – TOOL #3: True Moral Compass and True Humility
07 – TOOL #4: Heartfelt Love
08 – TOOL #5: Empowering Servant Leadership
09 – TOOL #6: Relationship Tools that Work
10 – TOOL #7: Heaven’s Help
11 – TOOL #8: Other Good Dads
12 – TOOL #9 Optimistic, Never-Surrender Attitude
13 – TOOL #10 Dynamic, Whole-Person Support
14 – Being the Best Single Dad You Can Be
15 – How to Handle Lifes Beanballs
16 – Thirty Ideas for Long-Distance Dads
17 – Conclusion: The Ongoing Fatherhood Journey